Anyway, time for the good doctor.
Question: How correct is it to say that one painful event can shape a person’s life?
Answer: Like I said in a previous post, it’s not really events that shape people so much as the relationships people have with one another. It’s true that people do attach importance to certain events but most of the time, it’s not really the event in particular that’s the problem, though the event can certainly be a catalyst. Generally speaking, if, for example, a man is cheated on by his wife, that won’t put him off all women forever even though it is certainly a painful event. But if, say, he had a difficult relationship with his mother – perhaps she cheated on his father – then that could influence how he views women in general. In isolation, events are just events. It’s when you look at them in conjunction with the relationships people have in their lives that they take on meaning.
Thank you the good doctor!
And I shall leave you with the golden rule that Dr Jax keeps telling me about having characters that are too self aware.
If you think they’re too self aware, then they probably are. 🙂