The Importance of Being Earnest (and Honest)

Sometimes this blog is a difficult thing. When I started it, I thought I’d just do random posts about how the writing was going and also – because I spent 10 years as a librarian and I’m firmly of the belief that knowledge is power – I wanted to share what I’d learned from the editor. From the blogs I’d already seen, not many people shared the info they got on their rejection letters so I thought I would, since the information in them was so helpful. I didn’t quote the letters direct since I’m not in the business of quoting others without their permission, but I did post the gist of it.

At first this was easy. When I started submitting, I knew I would make mistakes and get rejected, and I had no problem admitting my mistakes and sharing them with people so that others might find it useful. Of course, that was then. Sharing the rejection on my revised full was pretty hard. And sharing the rejections subsequent to that has been harder still. Mainly because with all this editorial support, aren’t I supposed to be getting better? Am I not learning anything?

Anyway, this is just to say that it’s a very public journey I’ve chosen to take. And yes, it’s my choice. And you should know that sometimes I hate posting my failures or mistakes up here. But I do because that’s how I started and that’s how I should continue. I have learned a lot and I know I still have a lot to learn, and I’m still a librarian inside, I still want to share my knowledge with those who might find it useful.

But the other thing is that I also share about how I feel about my mistakes and rejections. I know some people don’t like this. It’s uncomfortable. Hey, it’s uncomfortable for me too. But I do it because I want people to know it’s normal to feel angry, to feel sad, to feel disappointed when you get rejected or when you don’t place in a contest. It’s normal to cry. It’s normal to want to give up. It’s normal to feel jealous of those who have made it. It’s normal to yell ‘it’s not fair’.
I have felt all of those things and probably will continue to do so. But you’re allowed to feel that way, don’t let anyone tell you can’t. If you care about something, then you will feel crap when it doesn’t happen.

I have had some lovely emails lately from people, telling me how much they appreciate my honesty on this blog. So I thought I should say that I shall continue as I have started, posting my failures and mistakes. And I’ll continue to whine when I feel I’m not getting anywhere. And no doubt, I’ll continue to say ‘I give up’ at least once a month. And if you find this uncomfortable, that’s okay. You don’t have to read. I’m doing it for those who feel they can’t say it publically, or don’t want to share, who think they’re alone when they get that rejection and they feel like someone’s cut out their heart with a spoon. Well, you’re not alone. We ALL feel that way, no matter how many people pretend otherwise.

The truth? This blog, the people who read it, the commenters and the lurkers, and my CPs are the reason I’m still here. Yes, last week I wanted to give up. I was angry. I was disappointed. I felt ignored and I indulged myself with all those feelings. But I thought of all the people who have followed me on this journey and who are on their own roads, and I know I can’t give up. I’ve got to keep going. So, having indulged my feelings thoroughly because that’s how I deal with it, I’m putting them aside and getting on with it.

This may sound like a wah-wah, whatever post for all the battle hardened submitters and authors who have been doing this for years. Fair enough. Maybe after another few years I’ll have developed the same attitude and got my hard shell. But until then, this post is really for the people who haven’t been at this long and are struggling.

I pledge to you that I will continue to be honest with how I’m getting on. This will be hard for me but I’ll do it. I won’t criticise people or organisations, this is all about me, the drama queen writer. It’s a hard, hard journey but I am not a hard person and sometimes, it’s okay to admit that.

41 thoughts on “The Importance of Being Earnest (and Honest)”

  1. Fab post Jackie, and as always very timely. When I first started wanting to submit nearly two years ago, yours was the first blog I found. And I’ve never left it. And through your blog I’ve found lots of others I’ve started to follow and met lots of lovely supportive people who are great at offering advice – even when they are on the other side of the world. So love your honesty, even when the chips are down. Chocolate martini to you girl!
    Mega spelling mistakes in first post – Ooops!

  2. Susan – oh, so glad! I’m kind of thinking maybe I shouldn’t have been ‘so’ honest but…well… As you know, it’s been stuff I’ve been thinking about for a while and it is just my opinion. But it’s nice to know I’m not alone either! Thanks for sticking with me. 🙂

  3. Fabulous post, Jackie. Sums up everything I think many of us have been feeling lately.

    If we didn’t feel sad or whiny about our failures then that doesn’t say much about us and our desire to succeed. If it doesn’t hurt when we fail, then we didn’t want it very much then did we?

    I ate a big bar of chocolate on Friday when my name wasn’t on The List. Then on Saturday, I worked out a new schedule and wrote some words. I intend to take my ‘failed’ chapter and turn it into a whole book I can be proud of. Hopefully M&B will like it too 🙂

    Oh and I found your honesty refreshing. Not many people these days have the courage to be honest about their feelings and that’s very sad.

  4. Hiya Jackie,
    and THAT is why people keep coming back – because your posts ARE so honest, and long may you continue to be so.
    Sharing the ups and downs of your journey has def helped me along the way on mine, and I’m sure that goes for many other aspiring writers
    too.
    It takes nothing away from the winners to express your own sadness, and especially in your case there’s lots of build up to feeling the way you do.
    And what Jo just said is so true – you only feel it so much because you care so much, because you want to succeed.

    And hey – you’re totally allowed to express your feelings… that’s kind of the point to keeping a blog, isn’t it?

    Lining another chocolate martini up at the bar for you whenever you’re ready.

    Jo x

  5. Keep on, keepin’ on, Jackie. I’m with you 100%.

    Amy

    PS Pseudonym now decided on. Blog in works. Won’t be near as fabulous as yours. My dog’s blog is pretty cool!

  6. BRILLIANT post JAckie! I LOVE your honesty! But hey, I LOVE you! Am gutted we only get to see each other at the most once a year!!!

    Amy – so glad you’re starting a blog – can’t wait to follow your journey too 🙂

  7. I try to be honest. I don’t and won’t make stuff up for the “public”. Worst case, if someone doesn’t like what I’ve blogged about – they don’t have to keep reading. The blog is for me, first and foremost, if other people enjoy it from time to time – great. But always be honest.

  8. Jackie I’ve always admired women with big kahoonas and it takes ones made of steel to be as open and honest as you have been. All those feelings you described, they’re all perfectly healthy feelings and if you didn’t feel them THEN we’d start to worry.

    You say you hate posting your mistakes and failures but you know what? We love it. It makes us feel like we’re not so alone. And no one is a harsher critic of you than you yourself. We see you as a generous, wonderful women who is big hearted enough to share EVERYTHING about her writing journey. And please – never develop that hard shell! We love that you’re soft and that you feel things as deeply as you do – that’s what makes you such a great writer.

    Jackie, you’re inspirational, motivating, funny and bloody clever. Mwuah 8)

  9. Joanne – That’s exactly it m’dear. If you didn’t want it SO bad, it wouldn’t hurt so much. And I’m glad you’re doing stuff with your lovely chapter. M&B WILL love it when you sub it!
    As to the honesty, it’s easier online. I’m rather like IT Girl in that way. 🙂

    Jo – So glad the blog’s been a help. And at least a support. Yes, it’s not a criticism of winners or people’s success, it’s about acknowledging disappointment and doubt. And we’re allowed to do that as much as we’re allowed to celebrate success. Why should we ignore the negative sides all the time? Balance is the key, grasshopper. 😉 And yeah, it’s my blog and I’ll whine if I want to.
    *drinks martini*

    Amy – y’know, I’m kind of interested in your dog now. 🙂 And your blog will be AWESOME because it has you writing it!

    Rach – right back at ya, sweetie!

    Wendy – you read my mind. My blog is for me too and if I can’t say how I’m feeling on it then there isn’t much point eh? People don’t have to read it.

    Elissa – dang it, you just made me cry!! You see, you and all these other lovely people are the reason I keep on going. I know I complain a lot, but I just can’t do it alone. And neither can the rest of us eh?
    Dear Jilly of the Sisters is always telling me I need to develop some man-balls. I’ll tell her it’s official I have, and the lovely Elissa agrees. 🙂
    Thanks for all your wonderful comments. The fact that someone finds inspiration in my moanings and carrying-ons is pretty cool.

  10. It’s a lovely post Jackie and I’m not so sure I’ll ever be battled hardened! So many people have told me how much they love your blog because it’s so helpful and honest! I’m so glad that you’re going to soldier on, and congrats on those big kahoonas 😉

  11. Lacey – Lol! Thanks Lacey. I’m not sure I’ll ever be battle hardened either. I’m too much of a drama queen. Lovely words and I appreciate them. Hey, we could start a blog award eh? The Big Kahoona award for brave bloggers! I like that!

  12. Personally, I think you can rant and whine and cry and laugh and say whatever you want,Jackie. It’s your blog and if someone doesn’t want to read, then no one’s forcing them to.

    It takes a lot of (a boatload) of guts to put every step of your writing journey out there and I love you so much for it- for inspiring us, for letting us learn from your mistakes, for just being the awesomely generous person you are.

    So please please continue to do so.

    P.S. You’re such an inspiration for me that even hubby who rarely remembers my friends asked me how the NZ lady I had told him about so many times was doing.
    Sorry he’s just so bad with names that he christened you NZ lady.

  13. Sri – I LOVE being NZ lady!!! Your husband rocks! That’s just so awesome and lovely. And that’s right back at you too. Everyone who leaves me a comment here (or doesn’t and just likes to read) is just as generous. You guys don’t have to read my moanings but I love that you do and leave words of support. It’s great. So tell your husband that NZ lady is doing okay. 🙂

  14. Heavens, don’t fall into the trap of having to apologise or defend yourself. People come back to your blog, over and over and in increasing numbers, that in itself says a great deal. Your prolific output is inspiring, particularly for those of us who work in isolation. There’s courage in putting your thoughts, feelings and experiences out there. In an ideal world, we’d only ever hear good news from you. The fact you choose to tell it how it is adds to the sobering experience. It is about sweat, blood and tears and not for the faint hearted. Of course you feel like chucking it all in. It’s probably the strong drama queen tendencies compelling you to teeter on that ledge – for a while there I think you had everyone on a cliffhanger. However, pulling yourself together and getting back on the proverbial horse shows how much of yourself is invested in this. BTW, I keep referring to you as the NZ gal. How’s that! It’s not just people reading your blog, but also talking about you…

  15. Veronica – cheers m’dear! I don’t think I’ll do either. I deal with it in the way it works for me, but that won’t be the same for other people. Some get all determined with R’s, and some people fall down in a heap. I think both ways are valid. If you fall down in a heap though, you do have to get up eventually.
    And yeah, I do teeter on the ledge regularly. It’s the whole having to go all the way down before I can come up. But yep, I don’t think there’s anything else I’ve stuck with for so long and so doggedly before. I am a person that tends to want to give up if it gets hard. The fact that I haven’t yet is a testament to how much this NZ Gal wants this. 🙂

  16. Jackie, your post has made me all teary. Because it’s SO honest. And you are so honest.

    That IS why people come here. You aren’t pretending your journey is something it isn’t, and you aren’t pretending to be someone you’re not.

    This was tough, you guys, partly because it was so very public. I know that’s made it all the harder.

    Keep going, Jackie…you’re an inspiration, you know. 😉

  17. Maisey – thanks my dear, though I didn’t mean to make you teary! Anyway, your support means such a lot to me, as does that of all the Sisters. I’m part of such a wonderful community of writers and that’s why I’m still going.

  18. Jackie, I so agree with what everyone else has said here. My admiration for you is huge, not just for your honesty, but also for your generosity.

    And I’m a social worker so I’m gonna encourage you 110% to let out your emotions. BTW, personally I don’t view emotions as ‘positive’ and ‘negative’. I think all emotions are healthy and normal responses to life situations. The only negative thing is not expressing them and pretending they’re not there, or when someone allows those emotions to turn into something destructive.

    I’ll take off my social work hat now 🙂

    I love your blog and your honesty. Publication is such a difficulty journey, and we don’t hear the reality. You’re the one who has let it all hang out in the open – I really admire your bravery for doing that.

  19. Thank you, Jackie. For putting into words how so many of us feel, and for helping us to feel less alone.

    Expressing your feelings is so much healthier than bottling them up. And you’re a writer, so like most of us, you express your feelings by writing them down. Please keep on doing it!

  20. Hi Jax…

    I still recall the time when I fumbled with the iheartpresents website to read about past winning entries, in order to participate in the NV’s equivalent competition last year and how helpful you were. I never even had a blog then and from the moment I got a blog, yours was my major inspiration !

    I might be a bit selfish in asking you to continue with us in terms of sharing our journey, since I wish I had that much guts. After the 3rd or the 4th R, I stopped posting about it.. But your courage is awesome and I can only wish you the best from my heart.

    (((Hugs)))

  21. I’ve always admired your bravery in putting your feelings out there. I know I’ve been able to relate to what you’ve been going through. As with everything in this world, you will receive varying opinions on what you’re doing, but I think the positive feedback will far outweigh the negative.

    Plus, what you’re learning gives other people a roadmap for their own journey.

    It’ll happen for you. You’ve got the determination and talent to succeed.

  22. Can I just say, the sale party when you do get “the call” is going to be OFF THE CHAINNNNNNN!!!!! We’re all so emotionally invested in you, Jackie. And that’s because you lay it all out there for us to read. I think your blog is a very realistic chrolicle of a writer’s struggles to get published at the publisher she’s always dreamed of. I don’t think you’d be doing anyone any favors by making it seem like a carnival ride (although, it sort of is, with the ups and downs and the nausea, and long waits etc!) I think most of us have gone through some version of what you’re going through and your pain feels so real. I personally know only one author (off the top of my head)who never got an R before selling. The rest of us suffer the heartbreaks and near misses and crushed hopes. So it’s actually is very motivating and inspiring to see you muscle through it and perservere and refuse to give up, while still letting us know that it hurts (and I know it does. I’m so sorry for that). But once you get that first sale it’s going to feel like a win for all of us who have watched your journey. I can’t wait!

  23. Hi Jackie. I am one of your many lurkers! This is a first for me as I have never blogged, tweeted or commented anywhere (scared newbie!)but I felt I had to say something. I have been following your blog for sometime now and you are a total inspiration. I am currently writing my first ever ms and your blog (and links)have helped me so much. I realise now how hard it is to write and to get published and I’m not sure I will have your staying power. I really admire how you keep plugging away and I look forward to the day when I can buy your first book as many others do. Keep blogging, keep writing and the very best of luck to you.

  24. We love your honesty, Jackie. Just as we all love you. That’s why we keep reading. And WHEN you get that call the cheers will be deafening because we all know how hard you’ve worked for it.

    I wish I could be half as brave as you are.

    XX

  25. Hi Jackie,

    Sharing your feelings about your rejections does not in any way make me uncomfortable… in fact in a sea of platitudes and endless forced optimism it is soooo good to hear someone say it like it is.

    Rejections suck. Getting a small foot in the door then having the door continually slammed on that foot hurts like all hell. Seeing others get through the door and into the party is heart-breaking – and yep, we get jealous.

    And it’s not that we begrudge the winners and grinners… but we so, so much want that to be us.

    I think the worst part of this whole thing, is that we all want to be moving forward… to feel that our writing endeavours are moving in a linear direction toward publication. I want to know that I’m moving ever closer to that goal. When you put in all the work and you don’t get anywhere, when you just tread water, it is beyond frustrating… I know that I definitely start to doubt myself. Right now I have a whole new story planned out… and I’m too terrified to actually start writing it!!

    But I will.

    Please don’t change anything about the way you talk to us out here… we love you for what you say and how you say it.

  26. Wow, so cool all these comments!

    Angie – Absolutely, couldn’t have said it better myself. The whole we must only be positive thing really gets to me, as if feeling down and sad are not valid feelings to have. Being positive is fantastic, but we have to acknowledge we can’t be positive all the time and that’s okay too! Thanks re the bravery. I didn’t set out that way, honest. It just happened. And sometimes I really don’t like having to do it because it’s makes you vulnerable. But hey, aren’t we all?

    Romy – thanks m’dear! We do tend to write it down eh? And I AM a venter, not a bottler. Things are always so much better after a good vent I find. 🙂 So yeah, won’t be stopping any time soon.

    Ju – oh, aren’t you a honey? Well, I have to say, it’s people like you that keep me going. It’s true. I want to give up but the thought of posting it on my blog…I just can’t do it. I hate letting people down and with all the support I get, it would be churlish to throw that all away. But yeah, The R’s hurt eh? I post up mine because the ed gives advice that helps. That’s the only reason. Otherwise I might just crawl under the duvet and never come out. 🙂

    Tina – you’re a star! Thank you!

    Cat – you’ve been a inspiration too. I came late to your journey but I’ve caught a glimpse of it and hey, you’ve done it. You stuck at it. I look at all the hard yards you’ve put in and I think, nah, can’t be such a wuss as to pull out now! Anyway, yep, some people won’t like what I say or will find it uncomfortable but they have a right to feel that way just as I have.

    Christine – you gem! You see, again, I can’t pull out with such a lovely comment like that. And at the end of the day, how wonderful would our successes be if we didn’t have to fight for them? It’s trite but if we didnt’ acknowledge the pain, the success wouldn’t be as sweet. As to when – if – I ever get the Call. Well…PARTAY!!!!

    Cazza – thanks so much for posting! I really appreciate the comment. I find it so incredible that people who don’t know me from a bar of soap find this blog a good place to come. Who like reading my moanings. It means a lot to know you find it helpful and inspiring. Good luck with your ms. How great to start! Do come back and let me know you you’re getting on with it. Yep, this is not an easy road as you know by now but it’s like, how can I not write? I don’t even think that’s possible. 🙂

    Suzanne – you are. You put your NV chapter out there (it was fab!!). That takes Kahoonas!

  27. Wow, so cool all these comments!

    Angie – Absolutely, couldn’t have said it better myself. The whole we must only be positive thing really gets to me, as if feeling down and sad are not valid feelings to have. Being positive is fantastic, but we have to acknowledge we can’t be positive all the time and that’s okay too! Thanks re the bravery. I didn’t set out that way, honest. It just happened. And sometimes I really don’t like having to do it because it’s makes you vulnerable. But hey, aren’t we all?

    Romy – thanks m’dear! We do tend to write it down eh? And I AM a venter, not a bottler. Things are always so much better after a good vent I find. 🙂 So yeah, won’t be stopping any time soon.

    Ju – oh, aren’t you a honey? Well, I have to say, it’s people like you that keep me going. It’s true. I want to give up but the thought of posting it on my blog…I just can’t do it. I hate letting people down and with all the support I get, it would be churlish to throw that all away. But yeah, The R’s hurt eh? I post up mine because the ed gives advice that helps. That’s the only reason. Otherwise I might just crawl under the duvet and never come out. 🙂

    Tina – you’re a star! Thank you!

    Cat – you’ve been a inspiration too. I came late to your journey but I’ve caught a glimpse of it and hey, you’ve done it. You stuck at it. I look at all the hard yards you’ve put in and I think, nah, can’t be such a wuss as to pull out now! Anyway, yep, some people won’t like what I say or will find it uncomfortable but they have a right to feel that way just as I have.

    Christine – you gem! You see, again, I can’t pull out with such a lovely comment like that. And at the end of the day, how wonderful would our successes be if we didn’t have to fight for them? It’s trite but if we didnt’ acknowledge the pain, the success wouldn’t be as sweet. As to when – if – I ever get the Call. Well…PARTAY!!!!

    Cazza – thanks so much for posting! I really appreciate the comment. I find it so incredible that people who don’t know me from a bar of soap find this blog a good place to come. Who like reading my moanings. It means a lot to know you find it helpful and inspiring. Good luck with your ms. How great to start! Do come back and let me know you you’re getting on with it. Yep, this is not an easy road as you know by now but it’s like, how can I not write? I don’t even think that’s possible. 🙂

    Suzanne – you are. You put your NV chapter out there (it was fab!!). That takes Kahoonas!

  28. Wow, so cool all these comments!

    Angie – Absolutely, couldn’t have said it better myself. The whole we must only be positive thing really gets to me, as if feeling down and sad are not valid feelings to have. Being positive is fantastic, but we have to acknowledge we can’t be positive all the time and that’s okay too! Thanks re the bravery. I didn’t set out that way, honest. It just happened. And sometimes I really don’t like having to do it because it’s makes you vulnerable. But hey, aren’t we all?

    Romy – thanks m’dear! We do tend to write it down eh? And I AM a venter, not a bottler. Things are always so much better after a good vent I find. 🙂 So yeah, won’t be stopping any time soon.

    Ju – oh, aren’t you a honey? Well, I have to say, it’s people like you that keep me going. It’s true. I want to give up but the thought of posting it on my blog…I just can’t do it. I hate letting people down and with all the support I get, it would be churlish to throw that all away. But yeah, The R’s hurt eh? I post up mine because the ed gives advice that helps. That’s the only reason. Otherwise I might just crawl under the duvet and never come out. 🙂

    Tina – you’re a star! Thank you!

    Cat – you’ve been a inspiration too. I came late to your journey but I’ve caught a glimpse of it and hey, you’ve done it. You stuck at it. I look at all the hard yards you’ve put in and I think, nah, can’t be such a wuss as to pull out now! Anyway, yep, some people won’t like what I say or will find it uncomfortable but they have a right to feel that way just as I have.

    Christine – you gem! You see, again, I can’t pull out with such a lovely comment like that. And at the end of the day, how wonderful would our successes be if we didn’t have to fight for them? It’s trite but if we didnt’ acknowledge the pain, the success wouldn’t be as sweet. As to when – if – I ever get the Call. Well…PARTAY!!!!

    Cazza – thanks so much for posting! I really appreciate the comment. I find it so incredible that people who don’t know me from a bar of soap find this blog a good place to come. Who like reading my moanings. It means a lot to know you find it helpful and inspiring. Good luck with your ms. How great to start! Do come back and let me know you you’re getting on with it. Yep, this is not an easy road as you know by now but it’s like, how can I not write? I don’t even think that’s possible. 🙂

    Suzanne – you are. You put your NV chapter out there (it was fab!!). That takes Kahoonas!

  29. Wow, so cool all these comments!

    Angie – Absolutely, couldn’t have said it better myself. The whole we must only be positive thing really gets to me, as if feeling down and sad are not valid feelings to have. Being positive is fantastic, but we have to acknowledge we can’t be positive all the time and that’s okay too! Thanks re the bravery. I didn’t set out that way, honest. It just happened. And sometimes I really don’t like having to do it because it’s makes you vulnerable. But hey, aren’t we all?

    Romy – thanks m’dear! We do tend to write it down eh? And I AM a venter, not a bottler. Things are always so much better after a good vent I find. 🙂 So yeah, won’t be stopping any time soon.

    Ju – oh, aren’t you a honey? Well, I have to say, it’s people like you that keep me going. It’s true. I want to give up but the thought of posting it on my blog…I just can’t do it. I hate letting people down and with all the support I get, it would be churlish to throw that all away. But yeah, The R’s hurt eh? I post up mine because the ed gives advice that helps. That’s the only reason. Otherwise I might just crawl under the duvet and never come out. 🙂

    Tina – you’re a star! Thank you!

  30. Cat – you’ve been a inspiration too. I came late to your journey but I’ve caught a glimpse of it and hey, you’ve done it. You stuck at it. I look at all the hard yards you’ve put in and I think, nah, can’t be such a wuss as to pull out now! Anyway, yep, some people won’t like what I say or will find it uncomfortable but they have a right to feel that way just as I have.

    Christine – you gem! You see, again, I can’t pull out with such a lovely comment like that. And at the end of the day, how wonderful would our successes be if we didn’t have to fight for them? It’s trite but if we didnt’ acknowledge the pain, the success wouldn’t be as sweet. As to when – if – I ever get the Call. Well…PARTAY!!!!

    Cazza – thanks so much for posting! I really appreciate the comment. I find it so incredible that people who don’t know me from a bar of soap find this blog a good place to come. Who like reading my moanings. It means a lot to know you find it helpful and inspiring. Good luck with your ms. How great to start! Do come back and let me know you you’re getting on with it. Yep, this is not an easy road as you know by now but it’s like, how can I not write? I don’t even think that’s possible. 🙂

    Suzanne – you are. You put your NV chapter out there (it was fab!!). That takes Kahoonas!

  31. Just adding my comment to the rest Jackie to say I always read your blog, and it the most honest, heatfelt blog out there. It must be painful sometimes to share your disappointments, and its a brave thing to do. But its the real world that you mirror, Jackie, not the ‘I’m so fantastic’ world. In life we get knocks, some of them bloody unfair imho, and its not the knocks that define a writer, its the attitude in recovering from them. You detail the knocks, how you feel about them, and then you get yourself back up, put on your breastplate, and big sword, and go out to slay those dragons. You’re inspiring. Always a great help to everyone (me included!!), and don’t you ever, ever change.

  32. Hi Jackie – I just wanted to add my own little comment to the many wonderful comments above.

    I adore your blog – your honesty and insight is remarkable and why I am always so excited to see a new post from you in Google Reader 🙂

    When I met you at the RWAus conference I was so nervous as it was like meeting a celebrity 🙂 Would have loved to have chatted to you more, but was all tongue tied.

    🙂

  33. Sally – you’re pretty awesome yourself! Yeah, it’s painful, but it’s great to know everyone feels the same way eh? And you’re so right re the attitude. I’m not get back on the horse immediately every time, but so far I seem to have been able to pick myself up. I guess that’s good going!

    Leah – oh, aren’t you a sweetheart! You were tongue tied? Lol! You know what? I saw all these cool, glam Aussie chicks who all knew each other and I felt tongue-tied too! So NOT a celebrity! Come Melbourne, we’ll have to have a better chat huh? And hey, you may have sold by then!

  34. Yay – didn’t know you were coming to Melbourne! Awesome 🙂 Yes – lets definitely be brave and chat lots!

    And, YOU may be sold by then! 🙂

  35. Yayyyy *cheering wildly* Good for you, Jackie. Onwards and upwards (with a lot of whining and stomping of feet thrown in, preferably with fab shoes on!). You’re an inspiration and long may you continue to share your writing journey with us!

  36. Hey Jackie, your reasons are the same ones that has me checking in here. I like to follow your journey and can relate to your situations and feelings about them. I’ve achieved some level of success in this business, but I’m not nearly where I want to be and haven’t accomplished anywhere near what I set out to. YET, of course LOL! Being published doesn’t assure you of any success, only good and sustainted writing can do that. There’s still the possibility of rejection and disappointment. I don’t think any author would think otherwise. I enjoy your journey, both the ups and downs and it has helped me because it drives home the fact that I’m not alone. Others might not be going through the same things I am, but at least it helps knowing there are others out there that ‘get it’. Thanks!

  37. Chickie – you and Rach ARE the reason I’m still here. If it wasn’t for your honesty, your insight and well, you, I would never have subbed after that lovely big R.

    You really are an inspiration, a lot could and should learn from you. The journey is long, hard, frustrating and I can understand that once you’re there, it might seem not as bad, but honey, a little wah wah now and then is justifiable.

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