Missing Something Vital – The Romance!

I’ve been doing major edits on the wip and after a while I got to thinking that I was missing something. And you know what it was? I forgot the romance. So tied up with making sure there’s conflict and tension and whatnot, that I forgot I was writing a romance and these two people have to fall in love! Argh!! Lots of argument. Lots of love scenes. But where was the swoony falling in love bit??

Maisey’s just done a lovely post about the small moments between the hero and heroine, about those moments of connection. And you need them because otherwise how will we ever get emotionally involved? Why will the black moment be so terrible? Because we can see these two people falling for each other and we know they’re made for each other and yet they can’t see it yet. But first we have to show the reader these two are made for each other. And that they are falling in love even if they don’t realise it themselves.

I reckon that’s sometimes what I have problems with. I think that if I create these moments between my characters, they will somehow know what the reader and I know, that it means luuuurve. And then that upsets all my plans because they will run a mile. But you know, just because you have a nice moment with someone doesn’t mean you’re instantly in love. No, you just think ‘wow, what a cool guy’. It’s really the build up of all these moments that leads to the realisation – unless you’re writing a love at first sight story of course.

Anyway, have given them their moment of connection. And hopefully kept the significance of it from them. Actually, don’t know why I’m worried about them finding out. They’re both experts at lying to themselves and they continue to do so right up until the end.

So has this happened to anyone else? Got so caught up in conflict and tension on every page that you forget you’re writing a romance??

14 thoughts on “Missing Something Vital – The Romance!”

  1. Ummm yeah, been there, done that. And right now panicking that I didn’t include enough romance… shoot. Too late for the already subbed one I suppose.

    Great post as per usual!

  2. So many elements to think about…showing the romance is no easy feat – as I realised when it was kindly pointed out to me by my writing teacher that I hadn’t included anything about what makes my characters fall in love with each other. So you’re not alone :)At least you discovered it now…

  3. Jackie – I have this issue too! But I’ve just read a perfect example of giving moments – will be blogging about it but will give you a sneak peak! Jessica Hart’s ‘The Oh-So-Sensible Secretary’. So much sexual tension (despite being a Romance) and soooooooooo many ahhh moments. It’s a gorgeous story!

  4. Angie – yeah it’s hard eh? You don’t need to have lots there, just a nice moment that helps them connect on a deeper level. My two certainly need it ’cause at the moment it’s all about the sex!

    Rach – that sounds good! Almost makes me want to read Romance. I know, I know but I like my love scenes! Yes, shallow thy name is Jackie. 🙂

  5. Except for when shallow’s name is Maisey. 😉 But I keep hearing so much good buzz about that book!

    Jackie, the cool thing about adding romance is it’s actually really fun. It’s quickly becoming my favorite thing. But you know, I didn’t know at first if I could get away with those quiet moments, those moments of connection, but now that I do, I find it’s easy to add, if that makes sense.

    Because it’s those moments of real connection that go beyond the physical that make us believe that when we close the book, the HEA really does last forever.

  6. Maisey – that’s absolutely right. You do want to know that at the end, these two will be together forever. And endless love scenes don’t make that happen. 🙂
    But adding those moments actually does increase the tension – both for the character and the reader. For the character because they don’t want to fall in love with this person, and for the reader because she can see these two are meant to be together but she knows that they can’t see it yet and they’re going to be idiots about it right up until the end. And that’s when you get the awww moment. 🙂

  7. Trust me Jackie and Maisey – this book WAS HOT!! There wasn’t any actual consummation but it was so close it was scary, yet I didn’t feel ripped off when it didn’t happen. Instead it up the ante oh-so-much!

  8. What you have posted about is so true for me Jax..
    Especially when it comes to paranormal world building, I tend to spend a little extra time on it, thereby the romance-building time with hero / heroine takes a hit !

    Still trying to find the right balance though… 🙂 I guess the attempt to find the perfect blend would continue, for every story we write !

  9. Ooh, another cool question from Ms Jackie to sink our teeth into…

    I always think some of the sweetest moments of romance often come with humour…

    I love those moments when the hero and heroine are being playful with each other, and in Modern Heat it’s usually sexy playful (which is even more fun!!). It’s a chance for the hero and heroine to let off steam, to enjoy each other’s company but at the same time, because they are being the opposite of serious, they’re not going to notice that this is a big moment in the progression of their relationship… That they’re learning to like each other, that they’re falling in love (and not just lust)…

    Thanks for reminding me about that Jackie, cos I’ve just written two chapters of angry argument in my current WIP and now I’m thinking, okay, time to lighten the mood a bit here folks, before my H & h end up hating each others guts.. Never good in a romance!

  10. Ju – yeah, with paranormal, you’ve got all the world building on top of that, and even harder with a novella! Well, I couldn’t write short, I know that so I take my hat off to you. I can barely fit it into 50K as it is. 🙂

    Heidi – Lol! Yeah, I totally know what you mean about the playful. I love playful humour etc, which I guess is why I like writing Modern Heat (not forgetting the sexiness which I also love!). And in fact, that’s just given me an idea for my ‘moment scene’. I hadn’t thought of using humour to distract them. That’s a cunning plan, Ms Heidi, thank you very much!
    Oh and glad I could be of service! 🙂 I quite like writing arguments too so I guess that’s why I forget the fun bits sometimes.

  11. Jackie: With my firt novel, those little moments between H and h came really naturally and they were dotted throughout the story until the “dead”. Different story with my current WIP. I am writing about twins, so the brother I had no problem with, but with the sister (main character) I realized all that I had set up was the initial meeting with her and her love interest, so I had to go back and work on their attraction. So yes, you can get bogged down with one thing and forget about another, but that’s why we read, read, and read over out work – to see if flows and to fill-in-the-blanks.

  12. Wendy – that’s absolutely true. I’m actually quite bad with concentrating on one thing and forgetting about others. Initially I had too little backstory. Then I had too much! And then in one I had too much sex and not enough emotion and so concentrated was I on not doing that again that I had no sex at all! Grrr. Finding balance for me is VERY difficult.

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